Do you know the following situation? You are unhappy, in the morning you have troubles to get out of your bed, you have a stomach or back pain when you think about work, you work day is monotonous, your weekends consists of cleaning and going to the grocery store? You would like to change your life, you have no concrete plan, but you are quite clear about which kind of life you would make you happier, you would like to change, but sometimes you have some minor doubts about your intention as your ideal life seems so different to other people’s lives. So in moments of doubts, you call your family – maybe your mom, your father, your sister or your brother or your friends – and your ask them for advice, and you follow their advice instead of realizing your dreams.
If you’re like most people, and I was like this too, by the way, chances are high that other people easily influence you. The majority of people who want to change their life never really succeed in their project because they get influenced by other people, they lack a strong inner self. Especially when you were raised by controlling and dominant parents, your brain is programmed to rather listen to others than to yourself. People lacking a strong inner self get easily overwhelmed by other peoples’ thoughts, energy, and emotions.
The problem is most people still do the same they did when they were a child. They listen to the opinions of other people. The thing is: Most of the people around us such as our friends or family don’t know what is best for us. They are unable to put themselves in the shoes of other people.
Maybe you are quite clear about which kind of life you would like to live, but sometimes you have some minor doubts as your life seems so different from other people’s lives and what people are telling what is best for you. You might lack self-confidence and have low self-esteem so in moments of doubts you call your family – maybe your mom, your father, your sister or your brother or your friends – and you ask them for advice. And they give you advice AND you listen to this advice. The problem is most of the time what they tell us is not adapted to our personality and needs. Why? Because they are different.
Do you want to know why many people fail
in the project
Many people fail in the project of creating a different happy, healthy and successful life because they do not know themselves, neither their needs nor their values. And they don’t know how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, emotions, energy! Especially if you are a highly sensitive person and an Empath as I am, you might have never learned to make the difference between you and others. Most people don’t know how to listen to their gut feelings, their intuition. They have no guidance, no strategy, no plan. They are completely lost.
People who successfully realized their dream life they have some important skills and tools:
- they know themselves very well. They know what their beliefs, what their needs and values are
- they know how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, energy, and emotions
- they know how to listen to their intuition and to follow it-
- they know how to listen to their body because our body is our compass. Our body knows very well what is good for us and if we are heading in the wrong direction
- they have a plan and a strategy
So if you want to succeed in your project to change your life and live a different happy, healthy, and successful life, you need to learn some tools and those skills. With those skills, my life completely changed. And yours can, too. I suddenly felt strong on the inner side. I guarantee you if you have those tools you will change your life and you will live a different, happy, healthy and successful life. Sometimes it’s about small changes, but those small changes make a huge difference. If you want to learn to know yourself better and learn those tools please feel free to check out my website and my online class on how to realize your dream life step by step.
Julia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.
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