Do you know the following situation? You are unhappy and you are quite clear about which kind of life you would make you happier, you would like to change, but sometimes you have some minor doubts about your intention as your ideal life seems so different to other people’s lives. So in moments of doubts you call your family – maybe your mom, your father, your sister or your brother or your friends – and your ask them for advice and you follow their advice instead of realizing your dreams.
If you’re like lost people chances are that you are easily influenced by other people. The majority of people who want to change their life never really succeed in their project because they get influenced by other people. Especially when you were raised by controlling and dominant parents your brain is programmed to rather listen to others then to yourself. People lacking a strong inner self get easily overwhelmed by other peoples’ thoughts, energy and emotions.
The problem is most people they still do the same they did when they were are child. They listen to the opinions of other people. Most of the people around us such as our friends or family don’t know what is best for us. They are unable to put themselves in the shoes of other people.
Maybe you are quite clear about which kind of life you would like to live, but sometimes you have some minor doubts as your life seems so different to other people’s lives. You might lack some self-confidence and have a low self-esteem so in moments of doubts you call your family – maybe your mom, your father, your sister or your brother or your friends – and your ask them for advice. And they give you advice and you listen to this advice. The problem is: most of the time what they tell us is not adapted to our personality and needs.
Many people fail in the project of creating a different happy healthy and successful life because they don’t know themselves neither their needs nor their values. They don’t know how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, emotions, energy. They don’t know how to listen to their gut feelings, their intuition. They have no guidance, no strategy, no plan. They are completely lost.
People who successfully realized their dream life they have some important skills and tools:
- they know themselves very well. they know what are their believes, what are their needs and values
- they know how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, energy and emotions
- they know how to listen to their intuition and to follow it
- They know how to listen to their body, because our body is our compass. Our body knows very well what is good for us and if we are heading in the wrong direction
- they have a plan and a strategy
So if you want to succeed in your project to change your life and live a different happy healthy and successful life, you need to learn some tools and those skills.
I guarantee you if you have those tools you will change your life and you will live a different, happy, healthy and successful life. sometimes it’s about small changes, but those small changes make a huge difference. If you want to learn to know yourself better and learn those tools please feel free to check out my website and my
online class on how to realize your dream life step by step
Julia Noyel is founder of Art of a different, happy, healthy & succesful life and Expert in Self confidence with more than 14 years experience in consulting & training. As a certified coach and psychological advisor by the European university of applied science of Hamburg, she offers training and counselling to everyone who want to live a different, happy, healthy & successful. She is author of the practical guide ‘black sheep live better: how to realise your dream life step-by-step’ with instant tips for a different, happy, healthy and successful life and writer of two philosophical and psychological novels. Before starting her own company, Julia worked as Management & HR Consultant and gained confirmed experience in management, leadership, international HR management, HR development & HR marketing (Employer branding) within various industries such as retail, luxury, IT, service, pharmaceuticals, automotive and power. Connect with Julia online: