6 Risky Mistakes Parents Make when wanting to raise happy, healthy & successful highly sensitive & creative children

While teaching and researching over years in the field of parenting I see many of the same risky mistakes being made by parents who want the best for their children. They put all their effort and are then disappointed that their children struggle in life once grown up adults. In this article you will pick up some advice in order to avoid some common mistakes.

If you are parents and if you have ever wondered if you make everything right when raising your children or how you could make it better to help them to become happy, healthy & successful adults, it is time to dig a little bit deeper into this question. Check to make sure you are not making any of the following mistakes when raising your children that might hinder your children to be happy, healthy and successful later in life.

Mistake n°1 – They are unclear about their parent’s role


Many parents neither know the requirements for their role as parents, nor are they aware of what their real job as a parent is.
Well yes, we decide to have children out of love, you might say. But when the child is in our life, love is great but not enough to help your child to become happy, healthy & successful later in life. You have an important role to play for your child. Your child needs your help to get prepared for life. So what kind of life are you wishing for your child? Have you ever thought about your role as a parent? What is your aim? Being a parent is a huge responsibility. You are responsible for your child’s development of personality. Whenever you know what your role as a parent is, you have the opportunity to learn specific competencies you need to help your children to go through life healthily, happily and successfully.

Mistake n°2 – They have no idea what skills their children need in order to become self-confident, happy, healthy & successful individuals


Did you know that your child needs to be taught certain skills in order to become self-confident, happy, healthy & successful in life. And as we know, those skills are not always taught at school. The good news are: You can teach those skills to your child to help your child to become self-confident, happy, healthy & successful in life.
Once you know what skills I am talking about you can focus on teaching those skills to your child on a day to day basis through your behavior and parenting style.

Mistake n°3 – They lack the competences in parenting


They lack knowledge and competences in parenting. And you know what? This is absolutely normal! Yes, it is! Just think about how many years we invest in our education and studies until we are considered as an expert in our field and how much time we need to invest to build a career? We study for years: go to school, do an apprenticeship or go to university. Only for our role as parents we are not trained and do not even think about studying it. The good news is: you can easily learn the skills!

Mistake n°4 – They repeat the harmful behavior transmitted to them by their parents


It is probably the goal of all parents to raise children who are happy, healthy and successful in life. But how to make sure to reach the goal? And why do so many parents struggle in this project? Many parents just repeat what their parents did. However, scientific studies prove that some behaviors are harmful to our children. So if your parents got it right, you have good chances to do it right, too. The thing is : if your parents got it wrong, chances are huge that you repeat the same mistakes. So why not checking if you use harmful behaviors with your children? Once you know it, you can avoid the harmful behavior.

Mistake n°5 – They use a bad and harmful communication style without knowing it


We do all our best. Most parents communicate ‘intuitively’ with their children by repeating the same sentences and words they heart from their parents over and over again. They have been programmed! What is the problem here? Well, they do not consider that too often they also take over the harmful words, communication style, ton from their parents when they communicate with their children. Of course, changing your communication style will not happen in a single day, but by making a constant effort, you not only help your children to be more self-confident and successful, but you will also become a better communicator with your spouse, your colleagues and with yourself! By learning communication blockers you can avoid them and reduce power struggles, tantrums and much more. That’s great! Isn’t it?

Mistake n°6 – They are not aware about consequences of their behavior


They are unaware of how much things are going to get worse or what negative consequences their behavior will have on their children.
Bad parenting style as over control, abrasive, cold, aloof, arrogant or overly ambitious parenting style is the main reason children develop neurosis and personality disorder. Also small things you do or say to your child can hurt your child permanently and create troubles for their future life. The key to shift from harmful to a more positive parenting style: know what makes the difference. Sometimes it’s about small changes, but those small changes make a huge difference.

So what is about you?

Are you clear about your parent’s role, the skills your child needs, the competences you need in order to raise happy, healthy & successful children? What is your parenting and communication style? Are you aware of the consequences on your child’s development and future?

In my online class on ‘how to raise happy, healthy & successful highly sensitive & creative children’ you will pick up tools that will make sure that you avoid the above mistakes. If you are very serious about your children being happy, healthy and successful in life, feel free to check out this class ‘how to raise happy, healthy & successful highly sensitive & creative children’. You will walk away with easy and effective tools that will make your life as a parent much easier.

Author:

Julia Noyel is Expert in Self confidence for highly sensitive and creative people with more than 14 years experience in consulting & training. She founded Art of a different, happy & healthy life and as a certified coach and psychological advisor by the European university of applied science of Hamburg, she offers training and counselling to all highly sensitive and creative people and to those who live or work with highly sensitive and creative people in order to allow a happy life, successful, healthy life despite of the difference. She is author of the practical guide ‘black sheep live better: how to realise your dream life step-by-step’ with instant tips for a different, happy, healthy and successful life and writer of two philosophical and psychological novels. Before starting her own company, Julia worked as Management & HR Consultant and gained confirmed experience in management, leadership, international HR management, HR development & HR marketing (Employer branding) within various industries such as retail, luxury, IT, service, pharmaceuticals, automotive and power. Connect with Julia online:

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Julia Noyel is Expert in Self confidence for highly sensitive and creative people with more than 14 years experience in consulting & training. She founded Art of a different, happy & healthy life and as a certified coach and psychological advisor by the European university of applied science of Hamburg, she offers training and counselling to all highly sensitive and creative people and to those who live or work with highly sensitive and creative people in order to allow a happy life, successful, healthy life despite of the difference. She is author of the practical guide 'black sheep live better: how to realise your dream life step-by-step' with instant tips for a different, happy, healthy and successful life and writer of two philosophical and psychological novels. Before starting her own company, Julia worked as Management & HR Consultant and gained confirmed experience in management, leadership, international HR management, HR development & HR marketing (Employer branding) within various industries such as retail, luxury, IT, service, pharmaceuticals, automotive and power. Connect with Julia online:

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