How to survive as a highly sensitive person in a world that does not always understand how and to which degree we can feel the emotions and suffer from our sensitivity? In this article, you will learn 8 strategies to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. If you are a highly sensitive person, you might often feel rejected by people around you who tell you that you are too sensitive. As a highly sensitive person, I know how you feel. Being rejected for who we are can be a violent feeling, especially being rejected for our high sensitivity. People tell us to be less emotional because they cannot handle our strong emotions and often leave us with a feeling of being a bad person, inferior or just not good, not ok. And we try to change, to adapt. I tried for a long time to change until the day, I learned to accept my high sensitivity. From this moment, I met more people who accept my high sensitivity, too. So how did I do this? Well instead of doubting about myself, trying to change or to adapt to other people, I learned to better deal with people who rejected my high sensitivity.
Here you find 8 strategies to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity:
1. Chose with whom you are talking about your feelings and not
From my experience, if you are a highly sensitive person, it is important to chose with whom you are going to talk about your deep emotions. People are different and not all people are able to hear, get or understand your strong emotions. Especially rationals have really difficulties to listen to your emotions. People who reject your high sensitivity do not know what it means to feel. It is scary for them. Therefore chose wisely with whom you are going to talk about: “I feel.”
2. Forgive others
Often this is not bad faith of people if they say “you need to be less sensitive”, even the contrary, people want to protect you, because they do not want you to suffer, because they know that the world can be cruel. And they think (because this is what they have learned) that feeling is dangerous. Also, they do not think like you, they do not think about the meaning of the words they use.
3. Know that you are ok
It can be confusing being surrounded by so many people who tell us to be different. We need to have a strong mindset to remind ourselves: But let me remind you: you are ok as you are. If you feel strongly, there is a reason for it. Listen to your feelings. You can reprogram your brain to love your high sensitivity. I created a free video with subliminal messages reprogramming your brain, changing your beliefs. By watching it you will feel immediate relief.
4. Excuse if you behaved badly
Sometimes it might happen that we have a conflict with others, people might reject us, because we behaved badly. This is ok. Everybody can make an error. Make the difference between your high sensitivity and bad behavior. If you behaved badly (called names, criticized someone, screamed badly etc.) excuse. If you have a rage or anger issue, learn to better handle your anger. You can shift your old conditioning and calm your mind here with this powerful tool.
5. Walk away from toxic, emotionally unavailable people
When we are highly sensitive, we often attract toxic, emotionally unavailable and manipulative people. They are our shadow side. You might have difficulties to handle situations with some people as they are toxic. Toxic people will rarely change their behavior and show empathy. Wondering how to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity? If they are toxic there might be just one solution: Do not waste your time, walk away like a wise elephant or limit time with those people!
6. Surround yourself by people who are empathic
When we reject our own high sensitivity we are drawn to people who reject us and who tell us over and over again: you are too sensitive. You need to learn to surround ourselves with people who are empathic and who listen to you when you talk about your feelings. There are plenty out there. Focus your attention on empathic people.
7. Learn tools to protect you and to handle your high sensitivity
When we are highly sensitive we often try to cope with tools that people who are not highly sensitive recommend to us. This does not work. You need to use tools that fit your high sensitivity. The first step is to do self-healing, love and accept your high sensitivity by reprogramming your mind. I created a powerful free video to change your mind with binaural sounds and subliminal messages. Check it out here.
8. Create a life that fits your high sensitivity
When we are highly sensitive we need to create a life that fits our personality. You want to learn
- how to create a different, happy, healthy & successful life?
- to like your sensitivity and how to be authentic
- how to love yourself fully
- how to better know yourself
- how to dare speaking up for yourself
- how to stop wanting to please others
- how to say ‘no’ and respect your boundaries
Julia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.
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