Would you like to know How to stop yelling? Are you also desperate and do not know how to control your outbursts? Have you tried everything, but you have no success? Your anger is like a sudden storm coming over you? Good that you are here. Relationships are wonderful, unless there is a conflict. In every situation, the needs of two people should be heard and listened to, and a solution should be found for both parties to be happy. Creating a win-win situation should be our goal. But with some people this is not possible. Some people can or may only want to go their own way, are so busy with their own needs, having never learned to respond to other people’s needs or to listen to negative emotions.
When you are faced to people who cannot hear your emotions and needs keep your emotions bottled
We are often told to express our feelings and needs. This is basically a good and healthy idea with people who are able to listen to our feelings and needs. But sometimes we make an effort to express our own needs and feelings and are not heard despite our efforts and repeated tries to make others listen to us. At some point we will explode. Maybe you feel the same way. You express your opinion and needs, and the other person just ignores you, tells you how and what you should feel or even humilates you? You get upset. And then the other person tells you that you are not ok, too aggressive, too impulsive, etc. If we have never been properly heard since childhood and have never had the right to express our point of view and frustration as a child, it is very painful for us, if still as an adult we need to endure the same situations. Are you sometimes really angry and trying to get other people to finally listen to you? In a quarrel, you lose control quickly and start screaming to be heard? Or maybe you even start throwing things through the room, hitting the wall?
How to stop yelling and control your anger depends on your thoughts
As you may have already noticed, your fellow human beings will not listen to you more when you scream. Mostly your frustration and suffering are not perceived and you are labeled as hysterical, mentally disturbed, choleric, violent or not normal. The safe way is to stay calm and leave the situation or the person who does not consider your needs and your feelings, and to focus your attention on people who listen to your needs.
If you have trouble controlling your anger, you are screaming and quickly losing control of the dispute, check out my free video “Anger and Rage Management – I’m angry and stay calm. This video helps and teaches you how to stop yelling and ultimately control your anger outbursts.
Julia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.
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