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8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity
Discover 8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

Let’s discover 8 strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. Your HSP and you have low self-esteem? You are wondering how to survive as a highly sensitive person in a world that does not always understand how and to which degree we can feel the emotions and suffer from our sensitivity? In this article, you will learn 8 strategies to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. If you are a highly sensitive person, you might often feel rejected by people around you who tell you that you are too sensitive.  As a highly sensitive person, I know how you feel. Being rejected for who we are can be a violent feeling, especially being rejected for our high sensitivity. People tell us to be less emotional because they cannot handle our strong emotions and often leave us with a feeling of being a bad person, inferior or just not good, not ok. And we try to change, to adapt. I tried for a long time to change until the day, I learned to accept my HSP personality. From this moment, I met more people who accept my high sensitivity, too. So how did I do this? Well instead of doubting myself, trying to change or to adapt to other people, I learned to increase my HSP self-esteem and to better deal with people who rejected my high sensitivity.

If you are HSP and you suffer from low self-esteem, here you find 8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity:

1. Chose with whom you are talking about your feelings and not

From my experience, if you are a highly sensitive person (HSP), it is important to choose with whom you are going to talk about your deep emotions. People are different and not all people are able to hear, get or understand your strong emotions. Especially rationals have really difficulties to listen to your emotions. People who reject your high sensitivity do not know what it means to feel. It is scary for them. Therefore choose wisely with whom you are going to talk about: “I feel.”

2. Forgive others

Often this is not bad faith of people if they say “you need to be less sensitive”, even the contrary, people want to protect you, because they do not want you to suffer, because they know that the world can be cruel. And they think (because this is what they have learned) that feeling is dangerous. Also, they do not think like you, they do not think about the meaning of the words they use.

3. Know that you are ok

It can be confusing being surrounded by so many people who tell you to be different. It is important to foster a strong mindset and increase your self-esteem to remind yourself: Let me remind you: you are ok as you are. If you feel strongly, there is a reason for it. Listen to your feelings. You can reprogram your brain to love your high sensitivity. I created a free video with subliminal messages reprogramming your brain, changing your beliefs. By watching it you will feel immediate relief.

4. Excuse if you behaved badly

Sometimes it might happen that we have a conflict with others, people might reject us, because we behaved badly. This is ok. Everybody can make an error. Make the difference between your high sensitivity and bad behavior. If you behaved badly (called names, criticized someone, yelled etc.) excuse. If you have rage or anger issues, you can learn to better handle your anger. There are efficient and powerful methods to help you to shift your old conditioning and calm your mind here with this powerful tool.

5. Walk  away from toxic, emotionally unavailable people

When we are highly sensitive, we often attract toxic, emotionally unavailable and manipulative people. They are our shadow side. You might have difficulties to handle situations with some people as they are toxic. Toxic people will rarely change their behavior and show empathy. Wondering how to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity? If they are toxic there might be just one solution: Do not waste your time, walk away like a wise elephant or limit time with those people!

6. Surround yourself by people who are empathic

When we reject our own high sensitivity we are drawn to people who reject us and who tell us over and over again: you are too sensitive. You need to learn to surround ourselves with people who are empathic and who listen to you when you talk about your feelings. There are plenty out there. Focus your attention on empathic people.

7. Learn tools to protect your HSP soul and to handle your high sensitivity

When we are an HSP we often try to cope with tools that people who are not highly sensitive recommend to us. This does not work. You need to use tools that fit your high sensitivity. The first step is to do self-healing, love and accept your high sensitivity by reprogramming your mind. I created a powerful free video to change your mind with binaural sounds and subliminal messages. Check it out here.

8. Create a strong inner self

To be happy, healthy and successful and increase your self-esteem and self-confidence you need to build inner SUBSTANCE.

You can learn

  • how to create a different, happy, healthy & successful life 
  • to like your sensitivity and how to be authentic
  • how to love yourself fully
  • how to better know yourself
  • how to dare speaking up for yourself
  • how to stop wanting to please others
  • how to say ‘no’ and respect your boundaries

For more information click here…



Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and HSP expert & Coach in self-esteem and self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many HSP people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

© Julia Noyel 2015, photo credit: www.alicedardun.com,  fotolia- © kyoko

 

How to attract success and money and realize your dream life

Do you sometimes ask yourself how to attract money and success simply? Well, I remember the time when I was chasing after things, after customers, money, after success. I worked hard, was tired, had no money, and I spend all my time on my work. One evening after 12 hours in front of my screen, I was thinking “well, when will you finally succeed in what you are doing?” It was a difficult time. But suddenly I also remembered a time when everything was easy; life was so beautiful.

I worked a lot, but it was not hard. Everything was easy. I felt so good. Customers called me. Success and money came to me quickly. I had plenty of work and a 6 figure salary, just within one year after having started my own activity. So what could have happened? Why, after this easy-going time, I experienced life suddenly so differently?

What was different? Why didn’t it work anymore.

Let’s go back to the beginning of my story to understand better. People gave me tips. “You need to contact this person, and this person do cold calls.” A lot of people told me to follow the typical strategy. “Go out, sell, call and offer your services.” The thing is, I am a highly sensitive and introverted person. Like most of the highly sensitive and creative people, I hate chasing after customers, selling the services, do this traditional sales thing. Nevertheless people told me that this was what I was supposed to do if I wanted to be successful. When I first started my consultancy business, I did it all MY WAY. I followed my intuition, I followed my guts. I felt confident and it worked. I used my own strategy and it worked perfectly. But then came a time, one day, when I changed my job and I suddenly had to start from scratch. I had to get new customers. I felt unsure in this new role, and doubts came over me.  So I listened to what people had told me. I started chasing after customers, money, success. It did not work. I had no success. Life became difficult. I worked hard, wondering what happened to me. It took me some years to understand.

The majority of people who fail in realizing their dream life, be successful and become wealthy work hard, chase after things, and use an approach that does not fit their personality, values, and needs. They do it like everybody else does it, just realizing months or years later that it was the wrong approach, as I did.

So what is the Secret? People who successfully realize their dream life, are successful and become wealthy have powerful tools to attract their dream life, success, and money to them. They have a clear vision and a specific mindset, a strategy, and an approach that works best for them. They follow their heart and their intuition, precisely as I did when it all worked fine. They use a method that suits their personality, they believe in themselves, and it’s their attitude and positive thoughts that help them to attract their dream life, success, and money. They are in a flow. They fly with their life.

If you want to attract your dream life, you need to be in this flow. Therefore you need the right mood, have a clear vision, a strategy, an action plan, and use an approach that is in line with your personality.

In my coaching program “how to realize your dream life step by step” I teach you powerful tools to know yourself better, to define a strategy that works for you, to listen to your heart, to stay true to yourself and to define an action plan. You learn how to shift your energy to realize your dreams and attract success, happiness and money effortlessness to you. If you want to know more about, please feel free to check it out here.


Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

© Julia Noyel 2019, photo fotolia- © pathdoc

If you want to change your life don’t do this

Do you know the following situation? You are unhappy, in the morning you have troubles to get out of your bed, you have a stomach or back pain when you think about work, you work day is monotonous, your weekends consists of cleaning and going to the grocery store?  You would like to change your life, you have no concrete plan, but you are quite clear about which kind of life you would make you happier, you would like to change, but sometimes you have some minor doubts about your intention as your ideal life seems so different to other people’s lives. So in moments of doubts, you call your family – maybe your mom, your father, your sister or your brother or your friends – and your ask them for advice, and you follow their advice instead of realizing your dreams.
If you’re like most people, and I was like this too, by the way, chances are high that other people easily influence you. The majority of people who want to change their life never really succeed in their project because they get influenced by other people, they lack a strong inner self. Especially when you were raised by controlling and dominant parents, your brain is programmed to rather listen to others than to yourself. People lacking a strong inner self get easily overwhelmed by other peoples’ thoughts, energy, and emotions. Continuer la lecture de If you want to change your life don’t do this 

Highly sensitive & creative – Anger & Rage Management – How to stop yelling forever

You highly sensitive and you want to improve your anger & rage management – you want to know how to stop yelling? Well, you are highly sensitive and creative and quite expressive, even explosive! (-: Also when it comes to anger? Do you feel completely frustrated and you think you will never get any control over your intense emotions? I have good news. You can be highly sensitive and manage your anger. Yes, you can. Being highly sensitive myself and having trained and coached many people, I can tell you that it is possible. You’re tired of your emotional outbursts, your sudden mood changes, conflicts with others, feeling guilty and aggressive, hearing that you are too sensitive?


You have difficulties in managing your emotions, and you often lose control, get angry?  Your problem: the rage goes up so fast,
surprises you and becomes uncontrollable! You find yourself screaming or yelling, becoming defensive easily. You look more like a bulldog than a highly sensitive person and you hate yourself! You are wondering what is the secret of staying calm? Why are others so good at keeping calm and control over their emotions? Besides, you only meet people perfectly mastering their emotions while you jump as stung by a tarantula? You are wondering when you will finally manage to control your emotions, especially your anger? You feel frustrated.

Being highly sensitive myself and having trained and met many highly sensitive and creative people in the last years, I have seen many people who feel like you. And most of them had a misconception about how to control anger and better manage their emotions. Often they did not know what caused them to have such intense temper tantrums, they all did things that made their situation worse.

Anger & Rage Management – How to stop yelling forever

The thing is that as a highly sensitive person we have often heard to be less sensitive to less express our emotions. You might have been told for years that you are not ok as you are. Your sensitive needs have not been respected for years. There is so much frustration that you built up in yourself that if someone tells you that you are too sensitive, tells you that your emotions are not ok, or does not take in consideration our needs you just explode. This is normal, you feel that you and your high sensitivity has been rejected for years. You feel not accepted as you are. You have so strong and deep emotions that you are unable to control them rationally especially in moments when you are already over-stimulated.  If you have already tried different techniques to better handle your anger like breathing, doing yoga, count until ten, express your anger calmly and it does not work, I know how you feel. Most advice you find on the internet or in the literature is about how to identify your emotions, how to better manage them, and how to recognize emotions in others, how to express them. These tips are great and they work occasionally depending on the context. Often they are not enough, because those strategies are rational and once submerged by the emotion, you will have trouble managing the situation rationally. Emotional intelligence strategies are good for identifying emotions what is important and what I teach in my coaching programs but is not enough for highly sensitive and creative people who want to control or manage their emotions better. If you want to better manage your anger and stop yelling you need to work on a deeper level.

Check out my video on Anger & Rage Management – How to stop yelling forever to reprogram your beliefs and to stay in control in any situation as well as my video to accept your high sensitivity.

Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life

Julia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

I am a highly sensitive person – Am I too sensitive

I am a highly sensitive person – Am I too sensitiveThere are days when you feel overwhelmed by people, you feel hurt or you meet people who simply do not understand your sensitivity? Tired of hearing that you are ‘too sensitive’? Fed up with people who tell you that you do not understand their jokes! I know how you feel. Often as a highly sensitive person, we heard those words when we were a child again and again. And we have consciously or unconsciously inferred that we are wrong as we are and that we need to change. Continuer la lecture de I am a highly sensitive person – Am I too sensitive