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Highly sensitive, creative & empath – How to manage your anger

Highly sensitive, creative & empath – How to manage your anger by Julia Noyel

By Julia Noyel

We all have days where we feel overly emotional, moody, or angry. However, the problem comes when these emotions are projected outward onto the ones we love in the form of angry outbursts, mood swings, or aggressive conflicts. These reactions often leave you feeling guilty after you have calmed down, but it is often hard to control your emotions in the heat of the moment. We tend to have a visceral inner reaction when someone says we are too sensitive or overly aggressive, and it often has the opposite intended effect. It often makes us more angry and emotional, which creates a more contentious situation. You may feel that no one truly understands you, no one listens to your thoughts or concerns, or that people think you’re crazy or ill. It is easy to see why you would feel this way when you feel the other person is intolerant of your strong emotional behavior. I understand your situation all too well, as I have experienced feelings just like this.

You may find yourself facing a constant inner struggle, which has you trying to balance your assertive personality in a way that commands respect, while remaining calm and keeping your emotions under control. Why do others seem to be able to do this easily? You may feel frustrated seeing others who seem to have complete mastery of their emotions, while you feel as if you jump as if stung by a tarantula at the slightest sign of conflict!

Highly sensitive, creative & empath – How to manage your anger

Like me, you may have tried many different strategies over the years in order to handle your emotions and anger in a more constructive way. Then, when they didn’t work, you probably felt worse. You may have wondered, “What is wrong with me?”

I have experienced these same feelings of inadequacy over my years of searching for answers. I researched every solution I could think of, but often, the recommended solutions were laughable. Counting to 10 and breathing deeply? How was that going to help me calm down? This person surely hadn’t ever experienced real anger like I had! When I have experienced an attack of rage in the past, it is like the reptilian brain takes over, and I have felt like a lion just wanting to counter-attack! Because if you are angry, this is what you want to do! In my opinion, the majority of people offering advice have never truly understood how emotions of anger can control you.

So, first of all, let me explain to you some important things. When you are angry, there is a reason for it. You might feel disrespected, humiliated, or in danger, or you may feel frustrated that you are not allowed to express yourself. It is natural for your anger response to surface as a means of self-protection. Many times, when you feel this way, it is triggered by traumatic events or situations from your past that have conditioned a strong visceral reaction. Similar to the way an animal instinctively behaves, highly sensitive people and empaths are often kinesthetic so much more in their body, feeling powerful energy and sensations coming from the outside. They sense things other people may not. People who are acting with their body and heart over their brain often have stronger reactions than a very rational person focused on rational behavior. People that have prioritized rational thinking throughout their lives have often learned, or been trained, to repress their body sensations. They cannot sense things as we can, but there is an advantage. They might be able to better handle their body reactions. But now let’s come back to you.

Your problem: Your level of rage goes up so fast, surprises you, and becomes uncontrollable! You find yourself screaming and becoming easily aggressive. Maybe you are even afraid of getting violent and hurting someone. At times, it may feel that your reactions are completely out of your control. You look more like a bulldog ready to fight than a highly sensitive person, and you hate this! When rage controls your behavior, you will find it hard to get the other person to take you seriously, which can also lead the situation to spiral into deeper aggression. But take it from me, it doesn’t have to be this way.

Here is my secret for highly sensitive, creative & empath to manage your anger

By now, you may be wondering, “What’s the secret? What can I do to get my emotional reactions under control?”

Being highly sensitive myself, and having trained and met many highly sensitive and creative people over the years, I have seen many people who feel just like you. And most of them had a misconception about how to control anger and better manage their emotions, as I had.

And since they did not know what caused them to have such intense temper tantrums, they all did things that made their situation worse. I have tried many different techniques for years, without success, and believe me when I tell you the problem is not where you suspect it. I deeply studied and researched the subject of emotional management for years before I finally understood. The answer lies in understanding our emotions, where they come from, and working on ourselves to attract the behavior from others that we seek. We can choose to tolerate the behavior of others, even if it is unfavorable, by cleansing ourselves and utilizing our inner emotional power.

All of the techniques that I came across are like medicine, they simply try to treat the symptoms, when it is actually necessary to dig down to the root cause of the problem. Although some of these tips may work on occasion, it is not enough to identify and manage your emotions. You will continue to suffer from instances of extreme anger when you become submerged by emotion. That is why these solutions are not effective for highly sensitive people and empaths who need to control their emotions, before they find themselves in an unmanageable situation when rage has taken over.

What really stops you from controlling your emotions

Here’s my point of view about emotional intelligence for highly sensitive people and empaths: You need to clean your inner Substance. This will change your life in a sustainable way and allow you to adopt healthier behaviors. You can stay highly sensitive and emotional, in fact, it is an important part of who you are as an individual. Once you have cleansed your inner SUBSTANCE, this will bring you to the root cause of the problem. It will help you feel better and stay highly sensitive, but in a happy, healthy, and productive way. To cleanse your inner SUBSTANCE, and find freedom from anger, resentment, and frustration, please feel free to check out my SUBSTANCE Cleansingfor Method.

 

Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is inner SUBSTANCE Coach & intuitive healer, certified Coach & Psychological Counselor and author of several self-help books including black sheep live better: how to change and realize your dream life and The SUBSTANCE-FORMULA: Master the art of raising happy, healthy & successful children, The SUBSTANCE-FORMULA: Master the art of a happy, healthy & successful life. Expert in self-confidence & education, HSP, Highly sensitivity, empaths, Infps, creatives, communication, emotional management, people management & leadership, and authenticity, her approach is body-mind-spirit focussed. Trained in various techniques of nonviolent communication (NVC, PET, EI etc.), NLP, management, creativity tools and energy healing (EFT, Jin shin Jyutsu, Reiki, magnetism), she has developed her own approaches: SUBSTANCE-Formula & SUBSTANCE CLEANSINGfor. two powerful programs that transformed her life and those of her clients after having studied, researched and experimented with the most effective, inspiring, and latest techniques in the field of mind & cell reprogramming, subconscious mind functioning, cell memories, energy healing, and divine & intuitive healing. Her goal is to enable everyone to be self-confident, happy, healthy & successful in life permanently. 

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8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity
Discover 8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

Let’s discover 8 strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. Your HSP and you have low self-esteem? You are wondering how to survive as a highly sensitive person in a world that does not always understand how and to which degree we can feel the emotions and suffer from our sensitivity? In this article, you will learn 8 strategies to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. If you are a highly sensitive person, you might often feel rejected by people around you who tell you that you are too sensitive.  As a highly sensitive person, I know how you feel. Being rejected for who we are can be a violent feeling, especially being rejected for our high sensitivity. People tell us to be less emotional because they cannot handle our strong emotions and often leave us with a feeling of being a bad person, inferior or just not good, not ok. And we try to change, to adapt. I tried for a long time to change until the day, I learned to accept my HSP personality. From this moment, I met more people who accept my high sensitivity, too. So how did I do this? Well instead of doubting myself, trying to change or to adapt to other people, I learned to increase my HSP self-esteem and to better deal with people who rejected my high sensitivity.

If you are HSP and you suffer from low self-esteem, here you find 8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity:

1. Chose with whom you are talking about your feelings and not

From my experience, if you are a highly sensitive person (HSP), it is important to choose with whom you are going to talk about your deep emotions. People are different and not all people are able to hear, get or understand your strong emotions. Especially rationals have really difficulties to listen to your emotions. People who reject your high sensitivity do not know what it means to feel. It is scary for them. Therefore choose wisely with whom you are going to talk about: “I feel.”

2. Forgive others

Often this is not bad faith of people if they say “you need to be less sensitive”, even the contrary, people want to protect you, because they do not want you to suffer, because they know that the world can be cruel. And they think (because this is what they have learned) that feeling is dangerous. Also, they do not think like you, they do not think about the meaning of the words they use.

3. Know that you are ok

It can be confusing being surrounded by so many people who tell you to be different. It is important to foster a strong mindset and increase your self-esteem to remind yourself: Let me remind you: you are ok as you are. If you feel strongly, there is a reason for it. Listen to your feelings. You can reprogram your brain to love your high sensitivity. I created a free video with subliminal messages reprogramming your brain, changing your beliefs. By watching it you will feel immediate relief.

4. Excuse if you behaved badly

Sometimes it might happen that we have a conflict with others, people might reject us, because we behaved badly. This is ok. Everybody can make an error. Make the difference between your high sensitivity and bad behavior. If you behaved badly (called names, criticized someone, yelled etc.) excuse. If you have rage or anger issues, you can learn to better handle your anger. There are efficient and powerful methods to help you to shift your old conditioning and calm your mind here with this powerful tool.

5. Walk  away from toxic, emotionally unavailable people

When we are highly sensitive, we often attract toxic, emotionally unavailable and manipulative people. They are our shadow side. You might have difficulties to handle situations with some people as they are toxic. Toxic people will rarely change their behavior and show empathy. Wondering how to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity? If they are toxic there might be just one solution: Do not waste your time, walk away like a wise elephant or limit time with those people!

6. Surround yourself by people who are empathic

When we reject our own high sensitivity we are drawn to people who reject us and who tell us over and over again: you are too sensitive. You need to learn to surround ourselves with people who are empathic and who listen to you when you talk about your feelings. There are plenty out there. Focus your attention on empathic people.

7. Learn tools to protect your HSP soul and to handle your high sensitivity

When we are an HSP we often try to cope with tools that people who are not highly sensitive recommend to us. This does not work. You need to use tools that fit your high sensitivity. The first step is to do self-healing, love and accept your high sensitivity by reprogramming your mind. I created a powerful free video to change your mind with binaural sounds and subliminal messages. Check it out here.

8. Create a strong inner self

To be happy, healthy and successful and increase your self-esteem and self-confidence you need to build inner SUBSTANCE.

You can learn

  • how to create a different, happy, healthy & successful life 
  • to like your sensitivity and how to be authentic
  • how to love yourself fully
  • how to better know yourself
  • how to dare speaking up for yourself
  • how to stop wanting to please others
  • how to say ‘no’ and respect your boundaries

For more information click here…



Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and HSP expert & Coach in self-esteem and self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many HSP people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

© Julia Noyel 2015, photo credit: www.alicedardun.com,  fotolia- © kyoko

 

How to attract success and money and realize your dream life

Do you sometimes ask yourself how to attract money and success simply? Let me tell you my story. I remember the time when I worked hard, was tired, had no money, and I spend all my time on my work. One evening after 12 hours in front of my screen, I was thinking “why is it so painful and so much effort, work should not be like this!” It was a difficult time, I had the impression of having no control and felt powerless. What had happened? I suddenly remembered a time when everything was easy; life was so beautiful. I worked a lot, but it was not hard. Things came to me easily. I felt so good. Customers called me. Success and money came to me quickly each time I needed new clients or money. I had plenty of work and a 6 figure income, just within one year after having started my own activity. So what could have happened? Why, after this easy-going time, I experienced life suddenly so differently?

I thought about it. What was different? Why didn’t it work anymore.

 

I had changed my activity, and I suddenly had to start from scratch, living with a very rational and earth down partner.  I felt unsure in this new role, and doubts came over me, even over my spiritual approach towards life.  So I listened to advice that people gave me. “You need to contact this person, and this person, do cold calls.” A lot of people told me to follow the typical earth down rational strategy. “Go out, sell, call, and offer your services.” The thing is, I am a highly sensitive and introverted highly spiritual person. Like most of the highly sensitive and creative people, I hate running after customers, do this traditional sales thing. Nevertheless, people told me that this was what I was supposed to do if I wanted to be successful, and as I was in a period of self-doubts I listened.

The difference, when I first started my consultancy business, I did it all MY WAY. I followed my intuition, I followed my guts, connected to the divine. I felt confident. I used my own spiritual strategy to manifest and it worked perfectly well. But when, I started chasing after customers, money, success, using a ‘purely rational’ strategy, it did not work. I had no success. Life became difficult.

I believe the majority of people who fail in realizing their dream life, be successful and become wealthy work hard, chase after things, use an approach that does not fit their personality, values, and needs, they feel powerless and out of control. They do it like everybody else does it, not using their skills and talents for making them progress in life;

However, many of the people who successfully realize their dream life, are successful and become wealthy use powerful spiritual tools; connected to the divine they manifest their dreams by using powerful tools also athletes use. They have a clear vision and a specific mindset, a strategy, and an approach that works best for them, precisely as I did when it all worked fine. They use a method that suits their creative personality, they believe in themselves, and it’s their attitude and positive thoughts that help them to attract their dream life, success, and money. They are in a flow. They fly with their life.

From my experience, if you want to attract your dream life, you need to be in this flow. Therefore you need the right mood, have a clear vision, a strategy, an action plan, and use an approach that is in line with your intuitive and spiritual personality.

In my 14 days Course Become a master manifestor & attract a happy, healthy & successful life, I teach you powerful tools to manifest your dreams and attract a happy, healthy & successful life. You learn how to shift your energy to realize your dreams and attract success, happiness, and money effortlessness to you. If you want to know more about, please feel free to check it out here.


Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

© Julia Noyel 2019, photo fotolia- © pathdoc

If you want to change your life don’t do this

Do you know the following situation? You are unhappy, in the morning you have trouble getting out of your bed, you have stomach or back pain when you think about work, your workday is monotonous, your weekends consist of cleaning and going to the grocery store?  You would like to change your life, you have no concrete plan, but you are quite clear about which kind of life you would make you happier, you would like to change, but sometimes you have some minor doubts about your intention as your ideal life seems so different to other people’s lives. So in moments of doubt, you call your family – maybe your mom, your father, your sister or your brother or your friends – and you ask them for advice, and you follow their advice instead of realizing your dreams. In this article, I share with you the mistakes I made and that hindered me to follow through with my dreams and how I got out of it.

If you’re like most people, and I was like this too, by the way, chances are high that you are get easily influenced by other people. The majority of people who want to change their life never really succeed in their projects because they are seeking advice from other people, getting influenced and confused about what to do. They lack a strong inner self. Especially when you were raised by controlling and dominant parents, your brain is programmed to rather listen to others than to yourself. People lacking a strong inner self get easily overwhelmed by other peoples’ thoughts, energies, and emotions. The problem is most people still do the same they did when they were a child. They listen to the opinions of other people or waiting for approval from others. The thing is: Most of the people around us such as our friends or family don’t know what is best for us and won’t approve of our dreams, especially if they are quite different from what exists in this world and community.

Maybe you are quite clear about which kind of life you would like to live, but sometimes you have some minor doubts as your life seems so different from other people’s lives and what people are telling you what is best for you. You might lack self-confidence and have low self-esteem so in moments of doubt you call your family – may be your mom, your father, your sister, or your brother or your friends – and you ask them for advice. And they give you advice AND you listen to this advice or get angry at them but stay stuck. The problem is most of the time what they tell us is not adapted to our personality and needs. Why? Because they are different.

Do you want to know why many people fail
in the 
project

What helped me to change this pattern is to know myself very well, my needs, and my values. And to learn how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, emotions, energy! Especially if you are a highly sensitive person and an Empath as I am, you might have never learned to make the difference between you and others. Most people don’t know how to listen to their gut feelings, their intuition. They have no guidance, no strategy, no plan. They are completely lost.

Here are the skills I acquired in order to successfully realized my dream life and I would like to share with you:

  1. know yourself very well, your beliefs, your needs, and values
  2. know how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, energy, and emotions
  3. know how to listen to your intuition and to follow it-
  4. know how to listen to your body because our body is our compass. Our body knows very well what is good for us and if we are heading in the wrong direction
  5. have a plan and a strategy

So if you want to succeed in your project to change your life and live a different happy, healthy, and successful life, what was helpful to me and I believe can help you too is to learn those skills. With those skills, my life completely changed. And yours can, too. I suddenly felt strong on the inner side. Sometimes it’s about small changes, but those small changes make a huge difference. If you want to learn to know yourself better and learn those tools please feel free to check out my shop where I propose different programs to give you access to all strategies and tools I used to create a solid foundation for a happy, healthy, and successful life.


Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

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Highly sensitive & creative – Anger & Rage Management – How to stop yelling forever

You highly sensitive and you want to improve your anger & rage management – you want to know how to stop yelling? Well, you are highly sensitive and creative and quite expressive, even explosive! (-: Also when it comes to anger? Do you feel completely frustrated and you think you will never get any control over your intense emotions? I have good news. You can be highly sensitive and manage your anger. Yes, you can. Being highly sensitive myself and having trained and coached many people, I can tell you that it is possible. You’re tired of your emotional outbursts, your sudden mood changes, conflicts with others, feeling guilty and aggressive, hearing that you are too sensitive?


You have difficulties in managing your emotions, and you often lose control, get angry?  Your problem: the rage goes up so fast,
surprises you and becomes uncontrollable! You find yourself screaming or yelling, becoming defensive easily. You look more like a bulldog than a highly sensitive person and you hate yourself! You are wondering what is the secret of staying calm? Why are others so good at keeping calm and control over their emotions? Besides, you only meet people perfectly mastering their emotions while you jump as stung by a tarantula? You are wondering when you will finally manage to control your emotions, especially your anger? You feel frustrated.

Being highly sensitive myself and having trained and met many highly sensitive and creative people in the last years, I have seen many people who feel like you. And most of them had a misconception about how to control anger and better manage their emotions. Often they did not know what caused them to have such intense temper tantrums, they all did things that made their situation worse.

Anger & Rage Management – How to stop yelling forever

The thing is that as a highly sensitive person we have often heard to be less sensitive to less express our emotions. You might have been told for years that you are not ok as you are. Your sensitive needs have not been respected for years. There is so much frustration that you built up in yourself that if someone tells you that you are too sensitive, tells you that your emotions are not ok, or does not take in consideration our needs you just explode. This is normal, you feel that you and your high sensitivity has been rejected for years. You feel not accepted as you are. You have so strong and deep emotions that you are unable to control them rationally especially in moments when you are already over-stimulated.  If you have already tried different techniques to better handle your anger like breathing, doing yoga, count until ten, express your anger calmly and it does not work, I know how you feel. Most advice you find on the internet or in the literature is about how to identify your emotions, how to better manage them, and how to recognize emotions in others, how to express them. These tips are great and they work occasionally depending on the context. Often they are not enough, because those strategies are rational and once submerged by the emotion, you will have trouble managing the situation rationally. Emotional intelligence strategies are good for identifying emotions what is important and what I teach in my coaching programs but is not enough for highly sensitive and creative people who want to control or manage their emotions better. If you want to better manage your anger and stop yelling you need to work on a deeper level.

Check out my video on Anger & Rage Management – How to stop yelling forever to reprogram your beliefs and to stay in control in any situation as well as my video to accept your high sensitivity.

Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life

Julia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.