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8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity
Discover 8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

Let’s discover 8 strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. Your HSP and you have low self-esteem? You are wondering how to survive as a highly sensitive person in a world that does not always understand how and to which degree we can feel the emotions and suffer from our sensitivity? In this article, you will learn 8 strategies to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. If you are a highly sensitive person, you might often feel rejected by people around you who tell you that you are too sensitive.  As a highly sensitive person, I know how you feel. Being rejected for who we are can be a violent feeling, especially being rejected for our high sensitivity. People tell us to be less emotional because they cannot handle our strong emotions and often leave us with a feeling of being a bad person, inferior or just not good, not ok. And we try to change, to adapt. I tried for a long time to change until the day, I learned to accept my HSP personality. From this moment, I met more people who accept my high sensitivity, too. So how did I do this? Well instead of doubting myself, trying to change or to adapt to other people, I learned to increase my HSP self-esteem and to better deal with people who rejected my high sensitivity.

If you are HSP and you suffer from low self-esteem, here you find 8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity:

1. Chose with whom you are talking about your feelings and not

From my experience, if you are a highly sensitive person (HSP), it is important to choose with whom you are going to talk about your deep emotions. People are different and not all people are able to hear, get or understand your strong emotions. Especially rationals have really difficulties to listen to your emotions. People who reject your high sensitivity do not know what it means to feel. It is scary for them. Therefore choose wisely with whom you are going to talk about: “I feel.”

2. Forgive others

Often this is not bad faith of people if they say “you need to be less sensitive”, even the contrary, people want to protect you, because they do not want you to suffer, because they know that the world can be cruel. And they think (because this is what they have learned) that feeling is dangerous. Also, they do not think like you, they do not think about the meaning of the words they use.

3. Know that you are ok

It can be confusing being surrounded by so many people who tell you to be different. It is important to foster a strong mindset and increase your self-esteem to remind yourself: Let me remind you: you are ok as you are. If you feel strongly, there is a reason for it. Listen to your feelings. You can reprogram your brain to love your high sensitivity. I created a free video with subliminal messages reprogramming your brain, changing your beliefs. By watching it you will feel immediate relief.

4. Excuse if you behaved badly

Sometimes it might happen that we have a conflict with others, people might reject us, because we behaved badly. This is ok. Everybody can make an error. Make the difference between your high sensitivity and bad behavior. If you behaved badly (called names, criticized someone, yelled etc.) excuse. If you have rage or anger issues, you can learn to better handle your anger. There are efficient and powerful methods to help you to shift your old conditioning and calm your mind here with this powerful tool.

5. Walk  away from toxic, emotionally unavailable people

When we are highly sensitive, we often attract toxic, emotionally unavailable and manipulative people. They are our shadow side. You might have difficulties to handle situations with some people as they are toxic. Toxic people will rarely change their behavior and show empathy. Wondering how to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity? If they are toxic there might be just one solution: Do not waste your time, walk away like a wise elephant or limit time with those people!

6. Surround yourself by people who are empathic

When we reject our own high sensitivity we are drawn to people who reject us and who tell us over and over again: you are too sensitive. You need to learn to surround ourselves with people who are empathic and who listen to you when you talk about your feelings. There are plenty out there. Focus your attention on empathic people.

7. Learn tools to protect your HSP soul and to handle your high sensitivity

When we are an HSP we often try to cope with tools that people who are not highly sensitive recommend to us. This does not work. You need to use tools that fit your high sensitivity. The first step is to do self-healing, love and accept your high sensitivity by reprogramming your mind. I created a powerful free video to change your mind with binaural sounds and subliminal messages. Check it out here.

8. Create a strong inner self

To be happy, healthy and successful and increase your self-esteem and self-confidence you need to build inner SUBSTANCE.

You can learn

  • how to create a different, happy, healthy & successful life 
  • to like your sensitivity and how to be authentic
  • how to love yourself fully
  • how to better know yourself
  • how to dare speaking up for yourself
  • how to stop wanting to please others
  • how to say ‘no’ and respect your boundaries

For more information click here…



Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and HSP expert & Coach in self-esteem and self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many HSP people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

© Julia Noyel 2015, photo credit: www.alicedardun.com,  fotolia- © kyoko

 

Highly sensitive and HSP- Love starts with feeling ok and raising your self-esteem

Relationship advice - love starts with feeling ok raise your self-esteemBy Julia Noyel

You see couples in love everywhere you go; in the street, in the restaurants, and in your close environment; men warm and tender. You are wondering what is the secret and why others have so much love and warmth while you live at the North Pole? When do you finally meet a tender and sensitive man, who loves you as you are, highly sensitive and emotional? You are frustrated. Maybe you think: Are there only insensitive men outside?

You’re tired of meeting men who do not give you the attention you deserve, cold, withdrawing, emotionally unavailable? Tired of having eternally this feeling of not being important? If your relationship is lacking tenderness, kindness, warmth or depth, I know how you feel. It can be frustrating to have a relationship (with someone else) if it is devoid of love.  You are not alone in this situation. Many HSPs (Highly sensitives) or creatives, empaths, Infps often apologize for who they are. They think they are not ok. They believe to be too sensitive and too emotional to be loved. And there is no wonder. It is often what people tell them. But I have good news. You can change this feeling. What you need is to build inner SUBSTANCE and to understand what is really hindering you from a long-lasting deep love relationship.


love starts with feeling ok

Highly sensitive and HSP- Love starts with feeling ok and raising your self-esteem

The problem is not that there are no tender men out there. There are not only insensitive men in this world; Over the last years,  I have met many women who feel like you. And most of them had a misconception of themselves. The reason why men behaved badly with them was, that they thought that they were not ok. And that’s why they attracted only men unable to love or emotionally unavailable behaving unlovingly. Once you understand what needs to be changed, you can stop trying different techniques to become less sensitive, using power plays, and so on. And the man of your life will appear and other men will eventually change and behave differently.

Often we say, love, starts with loving yourself. This expression always seemed to me a bit abstract. Over the years I noticed what was much more helpful to me and most of my clients was: Love starts with feeling ok.

Here is one main reason that really hinders you to meet a loving man:

Here’s the truth about how to improve your love life and relationships: you currently lack self-esteem, a few ingredients in your daily life to accept yourself, essential skills you need for happier, healthier & successful relationships, a way to attract healthier men and situations. If you are an HSP and you lack self-esteem, you have not learned the right skills you can learn them now. From my experience and research, I know there are specific, simple and powerful tools and features you can learn to feel ok, get rid of your doubts, to create a happy, healthy & successful love relationship. What you need is to build inner SUBSTANCE. Once you acquire the right skills, you can stay highly sensitive and it does not matter. I have created a simple and inspiring process of 9 steps that will bring you to the source of the problem and will help you to build substance, to feel better in everyday life, be happy, healthy AND successful in your love life.
You want to attract healthier men? Learn how to master the art of a different, happy, healthy & successful love life, get powerful and efficient tools. Learn more here…


Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is the founder of the art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence & self-esteem, expert for HSP, highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

© 2016 Julia Noyel. All rights reserved. Any reproduction prohibited. Photo credits: © www.alicedardun.com, © mrswilkins – Fotolia.com