Do you know the following situation? You are unhappy, in the morning you have trouble getting out of your bed, you have stomach or back pain when you think about work, your workday is monotonous, your weekends consist of cleaning and going to the grocery store? You would like to change your life, you have no concrete plan, but you are quite clear about which kind of life you would make you happier, you would like to change, but sometimes you have some minor doubts about your intention as your ideal life seems so different to other people’s lives. So in moments of doubt, you call your family – maybe your mom, your father, your sister or your brother or your friends – and you ask them for advice, and you follow their advice instead of realizing your dreams. In this article, I share with you the mistakes I made and that hindered me to follow through with my dreams and how I got out of it.
If you’re like most people, and I was like this too, by the way, chances are high that you are get easily influenced by other people. The majority of people who want to change their life never really succeed in their projects because they are seeking advice from other people, getting influenced and confused about what to do. They lack a strong inner self. Especially when you were raised by controlling and dominant parents, your brain is programmed to rather listen to others than to yourself. People lacking a strong inner self get easily overwhelmed by other peoples’ thoughts, energies, and emotions. The problem is most people still do the same they did when they were a child. They listen to the opinions of other people or waiting for approval from others. The thing is: Most of the people around us such as our friends or family don’t know what is best for us and won’t approve of our dreams, especially if they are quite different from what exists in this world and community.
Maybe you are quite clear about which kind of life you would like to live, but sometimes you have some minor doubts as your life seems so different from other people’s lives and what people are telling you what is best for you. You might lack self-confidence and have low self-esteem so in moments of doubt you call your family – may be your mom, your father, your sister, or your brother or your friends – and you ask them for advice. And they give you advice AND you listen to this advice or get angry at them but stay stuck. The problem is most of the time what they tell us is not adapted to our personality and needs. Why? Because they are different.
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What helped me to change this pattern is to know myself very well, my needs, and my values. And to learn how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, emotions, energy! Especially if you are a highly sensitive person and an Empath as I am, you might have never learned to make the difference between you and others. Most people don’t know how to listen to their gut feelings, their intuition. They have no guidance, no strategy, no plan. They are completely lost.
Here are the skills I acquired in order to successfully realized my dream life and I would like to share with you:
- know yourself very well, your beliefs, your needs, and values
- know how to protect against other people’s thoughts, opinions, energy, and emotions
- know how to listen to your intuition and to follow it-
- know how to listen to your body because our body is our compass. Our body knows very well what is good for us and if we are heading in the wrong direction
- have a plan and a strategy
So if you want to succeed in your project to change your life and live a different happy, healthy, and successful life, what was helpful to me and I believe can help you too is to learn those skills. With those skills, my life completely changed. And yours can, too. I suddenly felt strong on the inner side. Sometimes it’s about small changes, but those small changes make a huge difference. If you want to learn to know yourself better and learn those tools please feel free to check out my shop where I propose different programs to give you access to all strategies and tools I used to create a solid foundation for a happy, healthy, and successful life.
Julia Noyel is founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.
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