Happy relationship – Why you might think twice about the kind of investment strategy you use in your love life if you want to create intimacy

Happy relationship What kind of investment strategy do you use in your love life

 By Julia Noyel

Portfolio theory and diversification are popular economic and marketing strategies to minimize your risk in business and in the financial world. Their aim: maximize your return and minimize your risk by selecting and dispersing your investments wisely. The concepts might work well in business, but do they also work in love?

Having a portfolio of different possible future mates while you are dating and not committed yet, is an efficient strategy to maximize your chance to find out rapidly who is the right partner for you. However, once you decided to build a future with your partner and you are interested in seriously driving forward the relationship, the portfolio strategy might be a dangerous strategy to your love life. You might find my comparison funny, however, what I noticed, this is what a lot of people actually do in their love life and wondering why it never works.

For a lot of us having passed the 30s and after our first relationship breakups we are so scared about suffering again. We want to protect our hearts. To do so, a lot of us use the portfolio and diversification strategy. What do I mean?

  • We never commit entirely to only one partner. We prefer communicating deeply with everyone except their partner.
  • We share our deepest emotions (hopes, hurt feelings, needs) with our Exes or Mums.
  • We spend most of our spare time, passion, creativity with friends and our children.
  • We think about or actually have sex with other people and not (or not very often) with our partner.
  • We never focus entirely on our relationship and disperse!

We hope that this way we keep control,  protect ourselves, keep our independence; And indeed, it is a simple and comfortable strategy to avoid any self-reflection and self-development and to keep away real intimacy. That way, we need to confront ourselves neither to our dark sides nor to our deepest fears.

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Nevertheless, if you want to have a deep loving and intimate relationship, a healthier way is to focus on your partner and your relationship. Love is neither a strategy nor a business. It is a conscious decision to build a solid, intimate, heart-connected relationship with your partner. This means to constantly do all the necessary to strengthen the deep connection between you and your partner, to work through the dirty stuff and occurring problems with your partner, to feel and express your feelings and show yourself vulnerable.

Do you want to learn more about how to

  • create a relationship in the long run!
  • resolve conflicts!
  • create a deep connection with your partner!
  • remove blocks and boredom!
  • communicate to be heard and understood by your partner!
  • be authentic without playing power games!
  • avoid relationship drama while communicating your feelings!

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Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful lifeJulia Noyel is the founder of the art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life and art of different, happy, healthy & successful employees. She is a highly sensitive & creative person, empath and certified coach & psychological advisor, consultant & trainer and expert in self-confidence, for highly sensitive and creative people, INFPs and empaths. Watch powerful free tools on her youtube channel. Her mission is to help as many people as possible to live a different, happy, healthy & successful life.

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