Highly sensitive – How to stop yelling and manage your anger

Highly sensitive - How to stop yelling and manage your anger By Julia Noyel

How to Stop Yelling and Control Your Anger

So how to stop yelling and control your anger?
After having asked this question to myself for years, I finally came to the conclusion that the reason you might be failing over and over again in handling your anger is exactly this question. When I stopped asking me this question and asked myself better questions instead, things good finally better.

“A better question to ask yourself and solve things definitely might be “Why do I attract situations in which I am not respected and heart?” – Julia Noyel

 

 

Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life

 

I believe, a better question to ask yourself and solve things definitely might be
Why do I attract situations in which I am not respected?”

 

Once I started asking myself better questions and working on the root causes of the WHY I attracted that kind of situations into my lifen my life changed completely and I finally succeeded in creating peaceful relationships and find true love and romance back into my life.

Stop yelling and control your anger. Free your inner SUBSTANCE!

Once you stop working on managing and controlling your anger and start working on the reason I believe your life will completely change as did mine. In my 10 months program ‘get true love back – success on ALL level, I will share with you the exact strategy I have used to finally overcome ALL issues and definitely change my love life. You will learn how to create a solid foundation for having true deep love and romance back into your life, a peaceful relationship and create a different, happy, healthy & successful life on a sustainable basis. In my program, you will learn how to detect harmful situations early and let go of any fears that might hinder you to create a peaceful relationship where you are respected and heart. Check out my program here…

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6 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity
Discover 8 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity

Let’s discover 6 strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. Your HSP and you have low self-esteem? You are wondering how to survive as a highly sensitive person in a world that does not always understand how and to which degree we can feel the emotions and suffer from our sensitivity? In this article, you will learn 8 strategies to deal with people who reject your high sensitivity. If you are a highly sensitive person, you might often feel rejected by people around you who tell you that you are too sensitive.  As a highly sensitive person, I know how you feel. Being rejected for who we are can be a violent feeling, especially being rejected for our high sensitivity. People tell us to be less emotional because they cannot handle our strong emotions and often leave us with a feeling of being a bad person, inferior or just not good, not ok. And we try to change, to adapt. I tried for a long time to change until the day, I learned to accept my HSP personality. From this moment, I met more people who accept my high sensitivity, too. So how did I do this? Well instead of doubting myself, trying to change or to adapt to other people, I learned to increase my HSP self-esteem and to better deal with people who rejected my high sensitivity.

If you are HSP and you suffer from low self-esteem, here you find 6 Strategies to increase your HSP self-esteem and deal with people who reject your high sensitivity:

1. Chose with whom you are talking about your feelings and not

From my experience, if you are a highly sensitive person (HSP), it is important to choose with whom you are going to talk about your deep emotions. People are different and not all people are able to hear, get or understand your strong emotions. Especially rationals have really difficulties to listen to your emotions. People who reject your high sensitivity do not know what it means to feel. It is scary for them. Therefore choose wisely with whom you are going to talk about: “I feel.”

2. Forgive others

Often this is not bad faith of people if they say “you need to be less sensitive”, even the contrary, people want to protect you, because they do not want you to suffer, because they know that the world can be cruel. And they think (because this is what they have learned) that feeling is dangerous. Also, they do not think like you, they do not think about the meaning of the words they use.

3. Know that you are ok

It can be confusing being surrounded by so many people who tell you to be different. It is important to foster a strong mindset and increase your self-esteem to remind yourself: Let me remind you: you are ok as you are. If you feel strongly, there is a reason for it. Listen to your feelings. You can reprogram your brain to love your high sensitivity. I created a free video with subliminal messages reprogramming your brain, changing your beliefs. By watching it you will feel immediate relief.

4. Excuse if you behaved badly

Sometimes it might happen that we have a conflict with others, people might reject us, because we behaved badly. This is ok. Everybody can make an error. Make the difference between your high sensitivity and bad behavior. If you behaved badly (called names, criticized someone, yelled etc.) excuse. If you have rage or anger issues, you can learn to better handle your anger. There are efficient and powerful methods to help you to shift your old conditioning and calm your mind here with this powerful tool.

 

5. Learn tools to protect your HSP soul and to handle your high sensitivity

When we are an HSP we often try to cope with tools that people who are not highly sensitive recommend to us. This does not work. You need to use tools that fit your high sensitivity. The first step is to do self-healing, love and accept your high sensitivity by reprogramming your mind.

6. Create a strong inner self

To be happy, healthy and successful and increase your self-esteem and self-confidence you need to build inner SUBSTANCE.

You can learn

  • how to create a different, happy, healthy & successful life 
  • to like your sensitivity and how to be authentic
  • how to love yourself fully
  • how to better know yourself
  • how to dare speaking up for yourself
  • how to stop wanting to please others
  • how to say ‘no’ and respect your boundaries

For more information click here…


 

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6 Risky Mistakes Parents Make when wanting to raise happy, healthy & successful children

3 Risky Mistakes Parents Make when wanting to raise happy, healthy & successful children

by Julia Noyel

Have you ever asked yourself the question: How to raise your child correctly? After many years of research and teaching children, I have long wondered how to raise a child properly. Can we also speak of a ‘true or false’ when we talk about the education of children?

” I believe if you want to be a better parent it is important to take some precautions to help your child acquire certain essential skills and help him build a balanced personality. –Julia Noyel

Of course, we can do it however we want, and everyone has the right to raise their child in whatever way they see fit, but I believe that if we want to raise happy, healthy, successful children with self-confidence, and if we want to be a better parent, we must reflect on the question, “How do I raise my child properly?” and take some precautions to help your child acquire certain essential skills and help him build a balanced personality.

Avoid making these mistakes if you want to raise happy, healthy, successful children.

If you are a parent and have ever wondered if you were doing everything right, how best to raise your children, or how best to help your children grow into happy, healthy and successful adults in life, it is time to look at this point a little more in detail. Make sure you don’t make any of the following mistakes to help your children be happy, healthy and successful later in life. Here are the 3 out of 6 errors that I could observe:

Mistake n°1 – being unclear about the parent’s role

Many decide to have children for love. Once the baby is in our life, love is important, but to help our child become happy, healthy and successful later in life, it is beneficial to know our precise role as a parent. I think that as a parent you play a very important role in the development of your child. Your child needs your help to prepare for life and to learn essential skills.

Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life
The following exploration question may help you:
What kind of life do I want for my child in the future?

Once you have an answer to this question you have the opportunity to teach yourself the skills you need to raise happy, healthy and successful children.

 

Mistake n°2 – having no idea what skills a child needs to become a self-confident, happy, healthy & successful individual

Did you know that your child needs certain skills to be confident, happy, healthy and successful in life? The good news is that there are many skills you can teach your child to be confident, happy, healthy, and successful in life.

The following question may help you: what are these skills to lead a happy, healthy and successful life?

Once you know what skills I’m talking about here, you can focus on teaching your child those skills every day through your behavior and parenting style.

Mistake n°3 – lacking the competences in parenting

How many years of training did you take to be a confirmed parent? Just think of the number of years dedicated to education and studies, until we become experts in our field, think of the time it takes to invest in building our career. It seems normal to study for years: go to school, do an apprenticeship or go to university.

My question: For your parental role, are you trained or have you thought about training? The good news is that you can easily learn important skills to be a better parent!

Do you want to learn skills to raise happy, healthy and successful children? In my 8 week program “Master the Art of Raising Happy, Healthy and Successful Children”, you will learn how to build strong inner SUBSTANCE, increase self-esteem, be confident, and raise HAPPY children, HEALTHY and successful. Learn more about my parenting coaching program here…

 

© Julia Noyel 2019, photo: Fotolia © buritora, all rights reserved.

Why you should think twice before following your intuition when raising your child

Why you should think twice before following your intuition when raising your child

Have you ever wondered how to get it right when it comes to raising your child? Is listening to your intuition all you need when it comes to raising your children or what it needs to raise happy, healthy & successful children? Well, you are not alone!

I didn’t know how to educate children and that worried me for a long time to the point of postponing my plan to have children. Not knowing which behavior was harmful and which one not would not have made me feel better. The contrary was the case. Honestly, not knowing would have increased my anxiety.

“When it comes to our parenting and eduction style, specially communication what naturally seems to be right is not always in the best interest of our child.”- Julia Noyel

Coming from the corporate world I knew that many companies paid much attention to preventing risks, so I was wondering why I should not when it comes to children? When it comes to parenting, should I swim in the ocean after the shipwreck in whatever direction just hoping to land safely?

I believe, what seems natural to us is not always our intuition and not always brings happiness, health & success to your children’s life. I observed some methods are proven to be appropriate if you want to help your child to set a foundation for a happy, healthy & successful life. I believe listening to and following our intuition in life is important also when it comes to our children. We need to listen to our gut feelings to feel the baby’s needs, to protect our child from danger, to detect lies and problems. However, when it comes to our parenting and education style, we need skills! Especially in communication. What naturally seems to be right is not always in the best interest of our child.

Become a SUPER Parent.

In my practical guide “How to master the art of raising happy, healthy & successful children” I share with you my children’s education strategy, my SUBSTANCE-Formula, a 9 step process to help you to to create a solid foundation for a happy, healthy & successful life for your chiild. You will get my tools delivered in a well-structured and easy, memorable way, learn how to better know yourself and your child. This will help you to feel safe and relaxed in your role as a parent and make you become one of the best parents. Get more information and instant access here.

 

Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life

Julia Noyel is the founder of the art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life. Her goal is to promote kindness, peace and love (romance) and to make this world a better place. She has made it her mission to help as many people as possible live a different, happy, healthy and successful life. 

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If you want to raise happy, healthy and successful children, don’t do this

You are parents? You want to raise happy, healthy and successful children?

If you want to raise happy, healthy and successful children, don’t do thisIf you have ever wondered how to make sure your children will be happy, healthy and successfully master their lives, it is time to dig a little bit deeper into this question. After having read the following lines you will discover one critical mistake many people do when it comes to parenting. Your and your child’s life is meant to be happy, healthy & successful. Being a parent is an amazing and rewarding experience and you can teach your child all the skills to master their life happily and successfully.

Continue reading If you want to raise happy, healthy and successful children, don’t do this

How to attract success and money and realize your dream life

 

How to attract success and money and realize your dream life

by Julia Noyel

Do you sometimes ask yourself how to attract finally and easily money and success? Let me tell you my story. I remember the time when I worked hard, was tired, had no money, and I spend all my time on my work. One evening after 12 hours in front of my screen, I was thinking “why is it so painful and so much effort, work should not be like this!” It was a difficult time, I had the impression of having no control and felt powerless. Wanna know what had happened?

I suddenly remembered a time when everything was easy; life was so beautiful. I worked a lot, but it was not hard. Things came to me easily. I felt so good. Customers called me. Success and money came to me quickly each time I needed new clients or money. I had plenty of work and a 6 figure income, just within one year after having started my own activity. So what could have happened? Why, after this easy-going time, I experienced life suddenly so differently?

Is this familiar to you? Have you changed your job and tried hard to attract money and success into your life and suddenly things are not working out as before? I thought about it. What was different?

Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life

How to attract money and success into your life

 

From my experience and intuitive insights, I believe it would be helpful to ask yourself:

  1. Do I feel discouraged to start from scratch and do it all over again?
  2. Do I have any fears of change and lack self-confidence?
  3. Might I have been deceived by any people I love who wanna be helpful but giving me harmful advice or behaving in harmful ways and disempowering ways?

 

“What is helpful to overcome this is to change
your perspective about things and find creative ways
to motivate yourself.” – Julia Noyel

What is helpful to overcome this is to change your perspective about things and find creative ways to motivate yourself. Once you build a positive and create vision your will attract money and success easily.

In my 10 month program get true love back, success on ALL levels I will show you how to do it your WAY. You will learn overcome obstacles to change and accept unpleasant feelings. How to focus your energy to succeed. I will share with you my wisdom and empower you to develop your own wisdom. So you will feel confident. I used my own spiritual strategy to manifest and it worked perfectly well.

I believe the majority of people who fail in realizing their dream life on a sustainable basis, be successful and become wealthy might lack patience. They want things quickly, instant rewards. However, many of the people who successfully realize their dream life, are successful and become wealthy use powerful spiritual tools and are enduring and persevere; They are connected to the divine they manifest their dreams by using powerful tools also athletes use. They have a clear vision and a specific mindset, a strategy, and an approach that works best for them, precisely as I did when it all worked fine. They use a method that suits their creative personality, they believe in themselves, and it’s their attitude and positive thoughts that help them to attract their dream life, success, and money. They are in a flow.

From my experience, if you want to attract your dream life, you need to be in this flow and use an approach that is in line with your intuitive, romantic and spiritual personality.
In my 10 months intensive transformative program get true love back – success on all levels, I share with you the strategy I have used to shift my energy and set a solid foundation for realizing my dreams of true deep love and romance and attracting success, happiness, and money back into my life. If you want to know more about, please feel free to check it out here.

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How to create a long-term relationship

How to create a long-term relationship

by Julia Noyel

Do you dream of true deep romantic love for life? But your reality is different! Dissatisfied in relationship. All your relationships have failed so far, your current relationship is also hanging by a thread and you are wondering why and how you will finally succeed? I can imagine how you feel. I had the same problem for a long time. My relationships just didn’t work out for long.

From what I’ve observed, when we keep failing, it’s important to ask ourselves this exploratory question: “Am I a romantic dreamer or am I also making my dreams come true? What exactly am I doing to make my relationship with the person I really love romantic?”
 
You’ve found someone and think: This is it! You are finally floating high above cloud nine! Attention! Building a long-term relationship requires vigilance and constant nurturing. You must check and ensure your connection. I believe it is also important to develop skills in order to be able to recover from defeats or conflicts.
 
“A relationship is like the lines on a kite wing that connect the wing to the bar.” – Julia Noyel
 
I would like to explain it to you with a metaphor. A relationship is comparable to the lines linking the wing to the bar and the tip flange. What binds you to the other is the relationship!
 
A relationship is like the lines on a kite wing that connect the wing to the bar. The steering and safety lines are connected to the kite and allow it to be steered. They help to steer in the right direction and to adapt to the force development of the wind. In a relationship it’s the same. Your relationship lines. What connects you with your partner.
 
If you know how a relationship works, regularly take care of the relationship lines and your relationship umbrella, you can protect yourself and your partner.
 
I would like to share with you here a second exploration question that may help you.
 
Julia Noye founder of art of a different, happy, healthy & successful life
Ask yourself, “What positive things am I doing to transform past conflicts with my partner and ensure a secure connection again?”
 
 
 
 
 
Just accessing the bad pictures or memories, blocking the connection, not opening your connection properly may not be the best to ensure a long-term harmonious relationship.
 
People who exercise an extreme and dangerous sport like a parachute, KITE know it: You ALWAYS have to check your lines: No crossing, no knots.
 
Dissatisfied in the relationship? Have you already thought about watching over your relationship lines, do you know what it takes to have a happy, healthy and successful relationship? Sometimes, as children, we didn’t learn important skills and tools we need to build lastingly happy, healthy, and successful relationships.
 
In my 8-week intensive coaching program ‘More Confidence – Master the Art of a Happy, Healthy and Successful Life’ I share with you the tools and skills that have helped me to lay a solid foundation for a happy, healthy and successful life and sustainable relationship.

 

Do you want to learn more about how to:

  • create a deep intimate relationship in the long run?
  • resolve conflicts with your partner?
  • create a deep connection and a profound bond with your partner?
  • remove blocks and boredom in your relationship?
  • communicate to be heard and understood by your partner?
  • be authentic without playing power games in your relationship?
  • avoid relationship drama while communicating your feelings?
  • understand your relationship patterns?

Learn more here…

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Happy relationship – How to choose the right partner if you want a long term relationship

Happy relationship – How to choose the right partner

You want a happy relationship? Are you wondering how to choose the right partner if you want a long term relationship? You are right. When we are in love we can become blind and do not really see the person we are in love with. Many of us want a happy long-term relationship, but invest to much time with a person who is not able to build a long term relationship. Continue reading Happy relationship – How to choose the right partner if you want a long term relationship

Action plan to love – Are you really in a committed relationship or only dating

Action plan to love - get committed to your lifeBy Julia Noyel
You wanna be in a relationship that moves forward? You can have this. Having advised and met a lot of woman over the last years, I can tell you that this is possible.

You have dated a man for months without the relationship moving forward and you ended up completely frustrated? Being highly sensitive myself and having trained and met many highly sensitive and creative women in the last years, I have seen many women who feel like you. Being in a relationship not moving forward is frustrating and a waste of time. It makes us feel unloved and undesired.

The wrong focus is to check if your man is ready for commitment

The problem is that most women have a misconception about how to make the relationship move forward. They try to understand why a man does not want to move forward, they think it is their fault, they become anxious and angry, asking themselves why the man is not ready for commitment. They start complaining, setting ultimatums or trying to make a man jealous to test his love. And this is completely normal, because when the man does not move forward you lose your control over your life, your future, your life goals and projects!

Time is precious as YOU are! Let me tell you: You are absolutely special and you deserve the best. Nobody has the right to waste your time It is your right to have your dreams realized, getting a loving committed relationship with a man who is emotionally deeply attracted, passionate about being with you; a man who wants to make and spend his life with you.

How to know if your man is committed?

People who are successful in their lives, have projects. And you should have, too. They take concrete every day actions in order to realize their dreams and ideas. You want a successful committed relationship?  One of the basic issues in a committed relationship you need to check if you have common projects. If you have ever attended a project management course you might know that projects normally have:

  • project titles,
  • action items,
  • and concrete deadlines.

My project management approach here might kill your romantic veins, ladies. I am sorry for that and I guarantee you: I would describe myself rather as a romantic, passionate, a highly sensitive strong feeling woman, but I love “management”! Why? Because it offers you concrete strategies to move forward not only in the professional life, but also in personal life. The thing is when we are highly sensitive or an INFP we are so romantic and full of emotions that we sometimes forget to use our rational mind. I know, as a highly sensitive and creative woman, you are romantic, feeling, expressive, and that is great. It is your nature, and when you are in love you might lose your heads, being more in your heart, but NOT do most of the man. Most masculine man love planning, organizing, leading, managing, and taking actions. It is their true nature! And they do it when they want it. So when you are looking for a long-term relationship and you want to know if your man is committed and wants to get engaged, have children, have a house, travel and so on, keep your eye on “the actions he takes “. This is the most critical for most women. A lot of the women I met, want to take over the role of the project leader! And then the man withdraws even more. It is not your task. It is not your role to make the action plan move forward, it is your man’s one. If he does not move forward there is a specific reason for it and you should be vigilant if you do not want to waste your time.

Action plan to love- get committed to your life_2

Over the years of experience I finally got it: The secret. Most of us want to know if a man is committed to us, because we feel he is not. From my experience this question will not really make you feel better. You need to reestablish the control over your life, completly get committed to your life. This change in mind completely changed my life and took away a lot of desperation and frustration. You want to know what I mean by taking control over your life, how to get completely committed to your life and how to do it? Do you feel ready for a happy, healthy and successful relationship and you are curious to learn simple and effective tools to get a committed relationship, learn more here.

 

 


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