How to raise my child – 3 (out of 6) mistakes to avoid (cont’ mistake 4-6)

by Julia Noyel

Do you want to be the best parent you can be… but are you afraid that you don’t have the right skills or that you will harm your child in any way?

If you are afraid, I understand you, because being a parent is a big responsibility, especially if you want to be an ideal parent. I believe ideal parents are much needed in this world. So I congratulate you for the courage, willingness, and love you have to become an ideal parent. If you have read my article ‘How to raise my child – 3 (of 6) mistakes to avoid’ in which I share with you mistakes 1 to 3, you know how important I think it is to have the right skills to prepare our children for life and lay the foundations strong enough to enable them to lead happy, healthy and successful lives. I have seen and heard many parents make the same mistakes over and over again. They have invested all their energy and all their money in the education of their children and are disappointed that their children are unhappy, sick, or do not succeed in life as adults. In this article, I will share with you 3 out of 6 errors that I have observed.

Avoid making these mistakes if you want to raise happy, healthy, successful children.

Make sure you don’t make any of the following mistakes to help your children be happy, healthy and successful later in life. Here are the 3 out of 6 errors that I could observe:

“I think as a parent you need to take a critical view of your parents’ parenting style.” -Julia Noyel

Mistake n°4 – repeat behavior transmitted by their own parents that were not the best

Raising children who are happy, healthy, and successful in life is probably the goal of all parents. But how can you make sure the goal is achieved? As a parent, I believe it’s important to evaluate your own parents’ parenting methods objectively without blaming them.
By that, I don’t mean judging or criticizing your own parents, but simply seeing what was helpful and what was less helpful. 

Mistake n°5 – use communication style without knowing the impact on your child’s self-confidence and self-esteem

The following questions can help you:

1. Am I aware of my words and their consequences?
2. Do I repeat the same phrases and words with my children that I heard from my own parents without thinking consciously?

If so, I believe for helping your children to be happy, healthy, and successful, it’s important to watch over your words. Avoid a communication style that can have a negative effect on your children’s self-esteem and self-confidence.

Mistake n°6 – being not aware of the long term consequences of their behavior

Are you aware of the long-term consequences of your parenting style? To reduce problems, crises, conflicts for your children, it is useful to have a strategy, a structured approach, a process and skills. I believe there is a well-thought-out process that helps raise happy, healthy, and successful children in life.

Do you want to learn skills to raise happy, healthy and successful children? In my 8 week program “Master the Art of Raising Happy, Healthy and Successful Children”, you will learn how to build strong inner SUBSTANCE, increase self-esteem, be confident, and raise HAPPY children, HEALTHY and successful. Learn more about my parenting coaching program here…

3 things better to avoid when wanting to raise happy, healthy & successful children

by Julia Noyel

Have you ever asked yourself the question: How to raise your child correctly? After many years of research and teaching children, I have long wondered how to raise a child properly to help them to be happy, healthy and successful in life. Can we also speak of a ‘true or false’ when we talk about the education of children?

” I believe if you want to be a better parent it is important to take some precautions to help your child acquire certain essential skills and help him build a balanced personality. –Julia Noyel

Avoid making these 3 things if you want to raise happy, healthy, successful children.

If you are a parent and have ever wondered if you were doing everything right, how best to raise your children, or how best to help your children grow into happy, healthy and successful adults in life, it is time to look at this point a little more in detail. Make sure you don’t make any of the following things to help your children be happy, healthy and successful later in life. Here are the 3 out of 6 errors that I could observe:

n°1 – being unclear about the parent’s role

Many decide to have children for love. Once the baby is in our life, love is important, but to help our child become happy, healthy and successful later in life, it is beneficial to know our precise role as a parent. I think that as a parent you play a very important role in the development of your child. Your child needs to prepare for life and to learn essential skills.

The following exploration question may help you: What kind of life do I want for my child in the future?

Once you have an answer to this question you have the opportunity to teach yourself the skills you need to raise happy, healthy and successful children.

n°2 – having no idea what skills a child needs to become a self-confident, happy, healthy & successful individual

Did you know that certain skills are helpful to your child to be confident, happy, healthy and successful in life? The good news is that there are many skills you can teach your child to be confident, happy, healthy, and successful in life.

The following question may help you: what are these skills to lead a happy, healthy and successful life?

Once you know what skills I’m talking about here, you can focus on teaching your child those skills every day through your behavior and parenting style.

n°3 – lacking the competences in parenting

How many years of training did you take to be a confirmed parent? Just think of the number of years dedicated to education and studies, until we become experts in our field, think of the time it takes to invest in building our career. It seems normal to study for years: go to school, do an apprenticeship or go to university.

My question: For your parental role, are you trained or have you thought about training? The good news is that you can easily learn important skills to be a better parent!

Do you want to learn skills to raise happy, healthy and successful children? In my 8 week program “Master the Art of Raising Happy, Healthy and Successful Children”, you will learn how to build strong inner SUBSTANCE, increase self-esteem, be confident, and raise HAPPY children, HEALTHY and successful. Learn more about my parenting coaching program here…

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Have you ever wondered how to get it right when it comes to raising your child? Is listening to your intuition all you need when it comes to raising your children or what it needs to raise happy, healthy & successful children? Well, you are not alone!

I didn’t know how to educate children and that worried me for a long time to the point of postponing my plan to have children. Not knowing which behavior was harmful and which one not would not have made me feel better. The contrary was the case. Honestly, not knowing would have increased my anxiety.

“When it comes to our parenting and eduction style, specially communication what naturally seems to be right is not always in the best interest of our child.”- Julia Noyel

Coming from the corporate world I knew that many companies paid much attention to preventing risks, so I was wondering why I should not when it comes to children? When it comes to parenting, should I swim in the ocean after the shipwreck in whatever direction just hoping to land safely?

I believe, what seems natural to us is not always our intuition and not always brings happiness, health & success to your children’s life. I observed some methods are proven to be appropriate if you want to help your child to set a foundation for a happy, healthy & successful life. I believe listening to and following our intuition in life is important also when it comes to our children. We need to listen to our gut feelings to feel the baby’s needs, to protect our child from danger, to detect lies and problems. However, when it comes to our parenting and education style, we need skills! Especially in communication. What naturally seems to be right is not always in the best interest of our child.